Monday, January 30, 2017

Giving God control, and resting in His PEACE!



Have you ever given something over to God, and then wondered why He wasn't taking care of it?

Ever feel like you need to do something, Anything really, to make something happen?

How many of us need to be in control of EVERY aspect of our lives?


I know that I am so guilty of this! I pray that God will take care of something, and I lay it at his feet, but then I worry about that same issue. I fret about "what can I do to help this situation" I do CRAZY things when I feel like nothing is working out the way I want it to...then I obsess over how I can fix it, what I can do to make things better, and then I cry out to God asking him why He hasn't "fixed" my problem.

Then I am gently reminded that I never left it with Him....I placed it at his feet, but before I turned to go, I picked it back up!

How awesome is it that He GENTLY reminds of us this....its not a SMACK to the head, although sometimes I am sure that is just what I need! He Loves us so much that over and over again, He reminds us of what we need to do, for us to be blessed by Him.

Just last week, as I was going through the 21 days of prayer for my business (if you are wanting to do this please check out  50K to Pray, I am enjoying this walk and recommend it to anyone who has a business or who is thinking about starting one) and while I was praying, I GAVE God control of my business...I spent a few days at peace, knowing that He was in control. it was going smoothly, until I decided that I should "help" my business along. I started worrying about things that I had already given to God. I started annoying my husband by asking "what if we do this" question non-stop. I had basically taken the control that I had freely GIVEN to God, back!  Of course my business wasn't  going to move forward, because I was no longer following the PATH that God had already put in front of me.

I was sitting in my sisters church yesterday, and  it hit me....I wanted to be in control. I wanted to be the person calling the shots. and let me tell you...that is never a good thing. my husband likes to say I am in helicopter mode....which basically means I am trying to control the outcome of every aspect of my life.

Do you know what happens when a helicopter loses control....They crash! It is messy, and people are hurt. this is basically what happens when I try to be in control of everything. I get overwhelmed, I get anxious, I get so frustrated with everything and everyone around me, I get emotional, and finally I CRASH.

Its at this point that I usually realize if I had just left it at His feet, I would never have gone through the whole process of crashing.

God wants us to be successful, HIS plans for us are GOOD...they are to give us HOPE!

Jeremiah 29:11 says "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

He wants us to prosper in everything we do. However, can we prosper, when we cant even give and LEAVE our problems with Him. 

My family jokes about all the crazy things I have done in an effort to control an outcome. I am the one who sees a bill due, and goes out and gets a job, even if I know I cant possibly physically do the job...it always ends in me crashing, which is not a good feeling. 

Learning to cast ALL my cares on the Lord, when I am the way I am, has been hard. But it is getting easier. It has taken me having to walk through some HUGE issues and situations, for me to realize that I am better just praying "Lord, your will"! 

Sometimes in order to have peace, we have to let the things that worry us,  the battles that seem so big that we could NEVER win them, we have to GIVE them to God. And we HAVE to leave them there. If we allow God to be in control, and we Allow Him to work wonders and miracles in our life, He will.

If we decide to pick them back up, then when nothing changes,  we have no one to blame but ourselves. God WANTS to fight for us. He wants to be our SHELTER in the storm, He wants to PROTECT us, and He wants us to CALL on Him.....But he will not fight us for control. He wants us to hand it to Him freely.  

Once we hand over our life, our problems, our family, our businesses, to Him, we can see His plan unfold before us. we can sit back and rest in the knowledge that He is taking care of everything and we are living in His PERFECT plan! 

Now dont get me wrong, I'm not saying that once you hand over control that you should sit back and do nothing....I am a firm believer that God helps those that help them selves, what I am saying is that we dont need to worry about trying to figure out how WE can solve the problem. We dont need to have anxiety over something that is out of our control. We can spend our time, praising God for His perfect out come, even if it is not the outcome we wanted.

So once you have handed your need over to God, let it go...concentrate on praising Him for what He is GOING to do for you.  Rest in His peace :) 


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my wonderful husband  calls this my helicopter mode!

Wednesday, January 25, 2017

When you feel like a failure, remember WHO made you!


let's get real for a moment....

How many moms out there feel like you are a failure? Like everything you have done, was wrong?

Sigh...that was me today!

 I forgot to swap the laundry....yesterday....so the house stunk this morning...AGAIN .

Today, in my frustration, I raised my voice to my family....and I HATED it.

Today, I didn't do meal prep...and so my hubby got out in the cold to pick up a dinner I should have made. (He did this without complaint, I might add, I truly am blessed)

Today, I let past fears seep into my daily activity, and based some of my decisions off of that past fear.

Today, I forgot to eat (seriously, who does this), and my sugar dropped so fast, I almost passed out!


Today, I felt like a failure.... 


But today, I also felt Gods peace...I love how it can feel like a blanket dropping over my shoulders, there is no better feeling then resting in His perfect peace!

Today, I remembered His GRACE...it is never ending!

Today, I was given the gift of blessing others...and was blessed in return.

Today, My daughter and I stood in a parking lot, holding hands, the world stopping for just a moment as we PRAYED that God would use us, and let everything that we did be done as worship unto Him.....What a precious moment.


Today, I was reminded that my past does NOT define who I am today!

Today, I may have failed in somethings, like the laundry, and raising my voice, but I am NOT a failure.

I am Me...I am a mom, a wife, a sister, a friend....I go by many names, but failure is not one of them.

If you are feeling like a failure...remember that you are uniquely made by the same God that made the Heavens and the Earth...He doesn't create failure. He creates beauty in everything.

Yes, we may fall, and we may fail at somethings, but that doesn't mean WE are failures. We are HIS...we are Loved...We are more then what our "today's" look like.

Lets all take a deep breath, start over tomorrow, and live the life He has laid out before us :)



Monday, January 16, 2017

Light-bulb

Ever have an Ah-ha moment?

You know what I'm talking about...
.the moment a light bulb goes off in your head
 and you can see the situation clearly.

Those moments are AWESOME!

It is like God has just opened your eyes and everything comes in so clearly, and you know exzactly what you are supposed to be doing!

I wish I could say I have a lot of these light bulb moments.....however I think God has to use a different type of technique on my type of brain. I personally think He must get tired of hitting me upside the head while saying "When will she EVER learn", or "seriously Shanna, this is the 3rd time we have had to go over this lesson"

I am unfortunately, a slow learner...and while I am learning from my mistakes, I sometimes have to learn from them over and over again..sigh, why is it so hard for me to learn?

It is something I am working on...I wish I could just jump to the test in some lessons, but that's not how God designed them. I have to walk through the lessons and learn from them.

Last week, while walking through the beginning of 21 days of prayer, I have learned something so important. The disappointments/failures/hurts of my past have helped shape who I am, but they do not define who I am meant to be. It has really changed my perspective, on how I look at the things that I have went through.

When I looked back over the disappointments and hurts that my family have walked through, I looked at them as "how could God allow us to walk through that" or "there was no reason for me to go through that."  but now I realize that yes, we were hurt, we were disappointment, but it wasn't all for nothing. It was so we could grow and mature in our walk with God.

Our family walked through something so hurtful, so unbelievable that I couldn't understand WHY we were going through it. and you know what? I still dont know why...and I may NEVER know why we had to go through it. But it happened. the pain was real, the disbelief was real, the hurt was real...all the raw emotions, they were all real....and that is what I focus on now.

In my hurt, the tears I cried out to God were REAL, they were RAW, they were from the inner most depth of my soul, crying out to a God who would never leave or forsake me.

There were days where I couldn't even voice how hard my heart hurt, and I didn't know how to pray, I would close my eyes and let the tears fall, and just say "Jesus"

Jesus....

I cried out to Him. I needed His peace so much, that I sought after him with my whole being.  I laid awake at night praying that God would shine His truth on the situation that we were faced with. I prayed that God would give me a forgiving heart, because it is easier to say "forgive and forget" then to actually say "I forgive you" to someone who has hurt you and your family.

Do you know what I found during this trial/lesson? I found that God was faithful, that He will not forsake His children. I also found out that while seeking Him, that He was never further away then just the mention of His name.

 I learned that the struggle, while it hurt, was the thing that started me looking at my inner heart. It started me on a path that has been remarkable. It has given me a confidence in my faith that I did not have before. I know that no matter what I walk through, and no matter how hard and impossible the situation is, I can give it to God, and He will take care of it. He may ask us to walk though another hard struggle, but I know that even as I walk through it, God is in control of the outcome, and no matter what that outcome may be, He is in control.

I have started LOVING my quiet time with God. something that I did before just out of habit, I now long for it. I have been maturing not only in my personal life, but also in my spiritual walk. and with out the trials that had me on my knees, crying out to God, seeking Him and His peace, I may not have gotten to the place I am at now....or at least It would have been a lot slower...remember folks, I am a slow learner :)


God showed me that even in my hurt, even in my weakness, that He is there, giving me PEACE and STRENGTH to get through the most difficult situations.

This past week, I have worked through more emotions then I thought possible. I seriously thought the "21 days of prayer" would be us reading and praying for a bit, I didn't realize that we were going to be asked to go so deep. But I am so thankful for it. It is drawing me ever closer to my goal of having a deeper personal walk with my lord!

When we are at our weakest, God is at His strongest!












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Friday, January 13, 2017

Friday the 13th


It is Friday the 13th.....can you believe that! Even just saying Friday the 13th brings back memories from when I was younger. Hanging out with my sisters and whenever Friday would fall on the 13th, we would want to do something spooky! I'm sure we are not the only ones who did crazy stuff like that?

The moment we found out that Friday was on the 13th, we would start planning....I remember asking mom  if we could have a sleepover, and invite a bunch of friends to have a "fright night", and we would plan everything from games, food, and even the music we wanted to play. We had SO much fun planning those sleep overs, and my mom never limited us to how many we could invite over, so most sleep overs had between 10-12 girls :) we always had fun.

Now to give a little back ground story....My parents were pretty strict on what they allowed into the house. we were NOT allowed to watch scary movies, or listen to certain styles of music. Which I am so thankful for now, because My hubby and I are the same way :) they led by example, and while when we were younger we did want to watch all the stuff our friends did, and listen to the same type of music, but my parents were more concerned with shepherding our hearts, and making sure that we had a firm spiritual foundation to stand on, than what was popular at that moment in time!

So when I said we had "fright nights" what I should have said is that we had epic sleepovers, with tons of fun and games, and we may have even got around to watching Abbot and Costello meets Frankenstein :) not the Friday the 13th fun you had imagined, right?  It may not have been filled with horror, but to us girls, our sleepovers were always a ton of fun.

Its funny how things like that pop into your mind, when you least expect it.

Today we model the same type of caution that my parents modeled, we are very strict on what we allow in our home, not only for Olivia, but also for what my husband and I watch.

We have chosen not to allow anything that could bring fear into our home.  our family has dealt with fear, and it is something I never want to walk through again. You can read about our reasons behind our choice here! Fear has no place in a family based on Love, and I will not knowingly invite it into my home. 

Now I am not saying if you watch scary movies, you are doing something wrong. I am only saying that for our family we have chosen not to watch certain shows.

Today is Friday the 13th, and while we do not have a night of scary movies planned out, we do have plans. Our night will revolve around our family, my hubby and I taking care of our sick little girl, and while we may watch a movie tonight, it will be age appropriate, and something that we can all enjoy together.

On this Friday, the 13th, if you are looking for something fun to do, I hope you will chose LOVE over fear. Because that is really what this is all about.

 The Bible tells us that "...God has not given us the spirit of fear; but of...LOVE"!    

 I LOVE my family, and I dont want to allow anything in that may cause uncertainty, fear, or guilt. Why bring something in that can and will cause these things. By setting limits, and being on the same page with my hubby, our family has weeded out shows and books that are not edifying to Christ, and that do not bring us closer to him, but that may/will  bring a sense of fear or uneasiness to our home. It was hard, and I STILL struggle with it from time to time...not going to lie about that! But I know that EVERY struggle that I walk through is shaping me and leading me to the path that I was designed for!



"For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of LOVE, and of a sound mind."

                                                                                                                                   2 Timothy 1:7 













Thursday, January 5, 2017

Just a Quick Post

Hi everyone, it has been crazy hectic around our home with the holidays, as I am sure it has been for you all as well!!

Can you believe that it is already 2017!! What happened to last year, it went by so quickly!  This year is already looking up, as God has shown his blessings to our family already. It amazes me that the God who created the heavens and the earth, looks at our small (to us it is huge) problems, and takes care of them for us. Not only does he take care of them, He goes above and beyond what we need. The blessing He gave our family, will not only be seen this week...but in the weeks and months to come. He is Good!!!

2016 was a year of ups and downs for my family. My mom passed away in January. We walked through a battle, that I never thought we would have to walk through. We had moments of fear and anxiety. We were sick (a LOT). We were faced with some hard decisions, and then we had to deal with the consequences of our decisions. To say it was a hard year, would be putting it mildly!

And yet.....here we are, in the 1st month of a new year, and God is already showing us that He is here, that He cares about us.

It is a great reminder, that Yes we had a rough year, and Yes I am glad that it is over, but even during the roughest part of last year, we were not alone.

God was always there. When I couldn't find him in the storm, it wasn't because he had left, it was because I had taken my eyes off of Him. I had lost my focus.  Gods Plans are FOR us, not against us. He has greatness in store for us, if we stay focused on Him, and not let the distractions of this world pull our focus away.

I am so excited to be starting a new year. I am still working on being intentional with everything I do and say. It has been a little hard sometimes, but I feel like this is what God is pulling me towards. This year I have made the same resolutions I always make, but I have added being intentional to them all.. I am intentionally focusing my prayers for my husband, my family, my business, and for my health.  I have more, but these are my main ones at the moment!

I pray that as the new year unfolds, that all of your prayers are answered above and beyond your greatest expectations!

leave a comment about what you will be focusing on this year, if you need prayer, or if you liked this post :)