Wednesday, November 1, 2017

Kids and Social Media


Kids these days are very social media advanced...I still remember having to wait for AOL to dial up on the family computer that was located in the living room of my childhood home. Now, every time I look around I see kids with a cell phone, laptop, or tablet. 

My own daughter has a phone, and while she has begged me more than once for a facebook account, she will not have one until she is old enough (read more mature and responsible) to have one. I did give in and let her have Instagram, but only because it gives us the option to link our accounts together...which is an awesome feature (thank you Instagram). it allows me to keep tabs on who wants to follow her, who she is following, and what she and others are writing on her Instagram page. While this does mean that I have a TON more dings on my phone, none of which are for me, it's all good, because it allows me peace of mind.

While I have had some who disagree with my choice of letting my daughter have Instagram, for the most part, it has not been a problem. She is responsible and always asks before she gets on it, and sometimes she will even check with me before posting a picture. She is allowed to follow family and friends ONLY (with the exception of Bethany Hamilton, My daughter loves her, and I think she is a pretty good role model, so we allow her to follow her). We have had a few people we don't know ask to follow my daughter, but hey, that's what the delete button is for.

And yes we have used it :) 

When we decided that she could have Instagram, we went over the rules with her. We have total access to all her electronics and know the password for each one. If we feel like she is not being responsible then she will lose her privilege of having an IG account. so far we have had no issues (keeping my fingers crossed)!

I found this great blog on how to monitor your kid's social media, and while she only has one social media account (IG), I found it was a great read!

Check it out here

What is your stance on Social media and children? DO you allow some of it, all of it, or none at all?

Tuesday, October 31, 2017

Flu Bug and Shopping

The flu bug has hit my family....my daughter got it first, and just as we were celebrating her 1st day of being fever free...it hit me.

It hit hard.

I had cold chills followed by hot flashes, a sore throat that felt like I was swallowing razor blades every time I attempted to drink or eat. My body ached and I couldn't for the life of me get comfortable, which made it nearly impossible for me to sleep.

My family rallied around me and has been amazing in taking care of me. My hubby has made food runs, cleaned the kitchen, and basically has done everything that I have asked of him. He even took her to her Ice Skating lessons so I wouldn't have to get out. I LOVE that man...poor guy has started to have a cough and sneeze issues...please say a prayer he doesn't get this. My Daughter has also been a great help. She has kept the house straight, made me cards, given me hugs right when I needed them the most. mostly she has just been here...making me feel better as much as she can, and I love her for that :)

Today, I woke up bright and early (read, I was unable to sleep due to my body feeling like it was bruised) to the thought that, while I have been sick and resting, I forgot that I DIDN'T go shopping like I meant to the day before I got sick. I was cleaning the church and decided that I could shop on Sunday after church. Needless to say...I didn't get out of bed on Sunday, and that means I didn't go shopping.

Which means....

There is NO food in my home!

OK, back up...there is food, but you would have to pop it in the oven, or crock pot, not something I want to do when I am sick. We are out of the fresh foods like fruit and veggies. We have no Cheese, and we are almost out of milk and water.

My hubby offered to go to the store, but since I keep my list in my head, and adjust what I want as I shop, its just easier for me to do the shopping.and it is time for me to go shopping. even if I am sick, even if I look like a dead person, and even if its the last thing I want to do! Its time.

I wrote all of this to let you know, if you see me at the store today, Just pretend I am dressed up as the "Flu Bug" and give me a wide berth. trust me you do NOT want this.

Happy Halloween Everyone. Stay safe, Stay warm, and have FUN.

















Sunday, October 29, 2017

Confessions of a Fan Girl: When We Fall



Confessions of a Fan Girl: When You Fall

We are works in progress…we will fall, we will bomb, and we will feel like the worst Christians in the world. Trust me I have been there. More often than I would like to admit. When I first started my journey, I was flying high...you know the feeling…nothing in the world could bring me down…and then I fell…HARD!  I didn’t think I would ever be worthy enough to even ask God to forgive me, let alone Him do so.

Now before you say “you felt like this because of a show/book/fandom? Let me just say this…NO I didn’t feel like that because of those things. I felt like this because my heart was full of sin and self-doubt. I was not where I personally wanted to be with God, and I didn’t think that I ever could be. I questioned everything, I had isolated myself not only from my family and friends, but also from my church family. I felt alone. I wasn’t…but I sure did feel that way.

It was very hard for me to confess this to my husband, because I had hid how I felt for so long. He didn’t even know what was happening in my heart, because I was ashamed to tell him. In my mind, I had failed as a wife and mother, and that thought devastated me. It took me to dark corners inside my heart and mind that I hid myself in. It led me to believe untruths, and contemplate things that I would never had thought about...those dark corners, those whispers that were not of God, led me to believe I was unlovable, that I would never be enough. I was plagued with nightmares. And because of those nightmares, I would go days with no sleep. Because sleeping meant that I would be in a world that terrified me. I tried to be happy around my family, and I succeeded in putting on a great show, but I just couldn’t seem to actually be happy on the inside.

This in not just about a fandom, no this is about the war that is fought on spiritual ground. I let something in that crept into every part of my life, and it was not going to let me go. When I opened up the door of my heart and allowed in witches, vampires, and yes my favorite man in a blue box, I said to the devil, make yourself at home.

And he did.

The moment I started saying he was an unwelcome guest in my heart, he started fighting back. And when the devil fights back, he fights dirty. He called up every sin I had ever committed, every word I had spoken in anger. Every time I had gossiped, or listened to gossip, every time I had failed…it was all there.  I would lay down to go to sleep, and it was like a movie playing in my mind. I would lay awake and cry, and I would beg God to forgive me and I would hear a faint whisper “you are not good enough, He will never forgive you” and I believed it for the longest time.
It wasn’t until I was sitting in a church service and I heard a minister say that if I had asked God to forgive me, that He had already done so. What I had to work on was forgiving myself.

It was life changing.

I started thanking God for his forgiveness and asking him to help me forgive myself. The freedom you can receive in just knowing that God has already given His forgiveness can be overwhelming.

For me it was a game changer. It changed my outlook on life, it made me realize that the whispers saying I wasn’t good enough, were not true. I could be the filthiest sinner, with the blackest heart, and God would still look on me with His amazing love.

Growing up in the church, and having heard this my whole life, it makes me wonder why I didn’t piece it together sooner. I knew that God loved me. I knew that He would always be there for me, and I knew that no matter what I did He would still love me…I knew all of that, and yet I allowed the devil to whisper lies to me, and because I was so full of self-loathing, I believed the lies over the truth that I had been taught my whole life.

When we fall, our Heavenly father is going to be there, with His hands wide open, ready to save us, but He will not be the only one there.
The devil loves it when we fail. He will not give up one opportunity to make us doubt ourselves, or the love of God. He is going to be shadowing us, waiting for and encouraging us from the sidelines to fall. 

When we fail, he is there to whisper in our ears. He will start by saying “we are not worthy of God’s love.” He will then get into our head and tell us how many times we have failed, that we must be ready to give up by now. He will make us question everything we have done. And we must not let him! We must stand strong and call on Jesus! Go to scripture and pray His word. 

Psalm 86:5 says “For You, Lord, are good, and ready to forgive. And abundant in loving kindness to ALL who call upon you.”

The devil has no control over us unless we give it to him. He hates when we call out to God, because he knows that Gods promise are to all of Gods children, not just to some, like he would have us believe. 

When we fall, it is so important that we get back up, we call on God, and we move forward, without looking back. When we glance back at our past failures, all we are doing is making it easier for the devil to put a stumbling block back in front of us. And if he can cause us to stumble, based on a past failure then he has done his job. What can make us give up faster, then failing over and over again on the same thing?

He will use everything in his power to make us fall, because when we are down, he can feed off of our despair and shame.

This is why it is so important to guard our hearts from the get go. If I had never allowed him entrance into my home and heart, I would not be battling him years after the fact. My daughter wouldn’t have had to go through 6 months of night terrors. I wouldn’t struggle every time I see something that has a supernatural element to it. Yes, I still struggle daily…I am constantly asking God for the strength to not fall victim to something that may seem “harmless” to someone else. I pray every day that God will place hedges around my home and the hearts of my family. We are now very strict about what we allow into our home, because we know what it can do. We know that while it may seem harmless to some, for our family it is a gateway to something worse.

Remember, When you dance with the devil, he is the one leading.NO matter how much you "think" you are in charge, you are not.

Tuesday, September 12, 2017

Lay It Down

I'm waiting for a prayer to be answered...

I have been waiting for quite a while now.

Everyday I whisper the same prayer over and over again in my mind.

I have "talks" with God about how this prayer being answered will CHANGE my life.

I sit and try to figure out what I can do to make the situation better...you know cause that works, right?

I even talk to my hubby about the "what if's" of this prayer....

I believe with my whole heart that we serve a prayer answering God. There is no doubt in my mind that He will answer my prayer.

And yet, I still lay awake worrying about this "unanswered prayer."

Have you ever done that? laid awake worrying about a situation that you have prayed over and asked God to take care of?

Why do we worry about something that we have already placed in Gods hands?

Why do we stress out when it is not answered right away.

Let me be honest with you...Yes I believe in prayer, and yes I know that God is going to answer my prayer....that is not what I lay awake worrying about.

I lay awake worrying about HOW He is going to answer my prayers.

Will the answer
be YES, or will it be a NO??

Will I have to wait for a while or is it something that will never happen?

Will the healing come in the form of a miracle, or will they be healed when they are taken from this world?

Not all answers to my prayers are what I want.

How many of us, know the answers we want from God? We pray for Gods will, but in the back of our minds we are hoping that His will and ours are the same.

which is crazy if you think about it. God created everything...the best thing I have been able to "create" is a wreath made out of old song books. and its not even that good.

God is perfect in EVERYTHING, His timing is PERFECT, His answers, even if they are not the ones I want to hear, are PERFECT.

and yet...I still worry.

I still struggle with the answers He gives me.

It is a struggle that I am trying to over come. I want to lay my worries, my fears, and my doubts at His feet, and leave them there.

Which  is so much easier said then done. Whenever I start to worry about what I have already prayed about, I  tell myself "God is in control."

I am working on laying it all down, and not picking it back up..I am working on trusting and accepting His answers to my prayers....It is a  work in progress.

If you are struggling with what you have already given over to God, take the time to listen  this song.

 Our God is GREATER then our worries. His timing is perfect,  and when He answers our prayers (which He will do), regardless of the answer, it is for OUR GOOD!






































Wednesday, August 16, 2017

Let go, and Let God...





life...

It happens.

Even if we wish we could slow the world down, and just rest in the moment we are in, life will continue to slip on by.

I realized that I have spent over 1/2 of my life wondering what people will think about me.

I am 37,and I still worry about how people will react to something I say or do.

recently my husband and I,  after much thought and prayer, decided that taking a step back and letting go of somethings/relationships was the right thing for us and our family.  But with this decision, came the "what if" game. A game I loathe. There are so many variables and to be honest you NEVER know what the other person is thinking...its all what you perceive them to be thinking.
That's the problem with playing this game, there are no winners. People will talk about you, they will speculate as to why you made certain choices, which is only human nature...how many times have we all done that?

Sometimes, giving something up and walking away from it can not only be freeing to you, but to those around you as well.

this is where we are. looking at what is before us, trying to see where we best fit, and realizing that sometimes there isn't a perfect fit, and that that is OK.

its OK, to take a stand, to be who you are, with out being afraid of what people will think of you. IT really is OK...I am saying this to myself as much as anyone reading this.

We are made in God's image...He molded us and made us into who He wanted us to be. Therefore it seems to me that what "He thinks of me" is all I should be worried about.

We shouldn't play the what if game, or worry that we are not enough. As long as we are walking in the path that He laid out for us, we are good to go.

Don't let the fear of what others think about you(real or imagined), keep you from becoming what God desires you to be.

Let go of the fear, the guilt, the anxiety and just rest in the knowledge that you are living your life for the one who made you...no one else!

What he has in store for you, will be bigger then anything you can imagine! His Plans are FOR US!!!

They may not be what/where we though they would be, but they are perfect for us.

Let go, and let God! 










Sunday, July 30, 2017

Panic Mode

A few days ago I freaked out....seriously I had true moment of panic. And when I panic, I start trying to figure things out for myself, instead of letting go and letting God take control.

For more then a few weeks, my husband and I have been feeling the need to attend prayer at our church, only problem was that it fell on a day I was working. Every time we would go to Church we would hear about how awesome Family Prayer night was, and how God was moving and answering prayers, and I would feel like I was missing out. that we were not faithful to the house of God, and that we NEEDED to be at Family Prayer, as a family. It was a feeling that kept getting stronger and stronger and finally we both decided that no matter what our family was going to start attending Family Prayer! I talked to my boss, gave them two weeks notice about my availability and started the 2 week count down....really, I was counting down the days.

Then the last day came, and while I was jumping for joy on the outside, something deep with me started questioning...

"Did we do the right thing?"

"How were we going to make it without my extra hours?"

"Maybe we cut too many hours?"

The questions and "what ifs" kept swirling around in my head ALL DAY LONG! until I just couldn't take it any more. I reached for my phone and sent my hubby a slew of texts telling him "how wrong I was for cutting my hours", that I should "call and see if I could get them back", "what were we thinking".....I am sure you can see where these messages were headed, so Ill save you having to read them all.

Panic had officially set in, and instead of me turning to God, I texted my husband about how stressed I was and how scared I was that we had made the wrong decision.

Thankfully my Husband didn't text me back with panic stricken messages, confirming my fears...no, he reminded me that we BOTH had made this decision, that we BOTH had felt that this was what God wanted for our family, and that we BOTH WANTED to be more available for God to use us, and with my schedule that was not a possibility.

He reminded me of something I already knew....and yet I had let go of those truths, and focused on my fears.  

I spent a day worrying and trying to figure out/plan what could happen, that I lost sight of the fact that we were following what we believed was God's will for our family and lives.

Today we went to church as a family, and we worshiped together, and I felt PEACE.

And that  is what it is all about. Moving closer as a family to God, Having more time for Kingdom Work, and above all else...making sure that our hearts are ready.

There may be stressful days ahead, and more moments filled with PANIC, but I can look back and know that my peace is not in how "I can make it all work out," but in how I KNOW that God WILL work it out.

Wednesday, June 28, 2017

Little Reminders

Lately I have realized that even though I have lived in this house for more years then my parents have been gone, somethings still remain the same. Sitting on the shelves above my pantry are my moms cake stands, special pie holders, and her box of spoons from her "Kid's Spoon Band." A few of our cabinets still hold her Christmas decorations. My kitchen wall holds a mural that she started painting before she and my father moved, and we moved in, it is unfinished, but I love it all the same. Sometimes I just walk over to it and lightly place my hand over it...it is something she created, touched, and loved. In my living room I have a buffet they they used, a piano that my mom would sit and play at while she and my father sang together, oh how I miss listening to them sing together, they harmonized so beautifully! I also have a record player, that no longer works, but will always have a place in my home, because I remember how excited my father was when my mom bought it for him. These things are small, and I am sure mean nothing to anyone but me and my family, but they are a connection to my parents, one that I love being surrendered with. From where I sit, I can see reminders of them, of their love for each other, and for their family. There may come a day, when I no longer need these little reminders, but for now, I will keep them close, smile when I see them, and remember all the wonderful memories we made as a family.

Friday, June 16, 2017

10 things I learned This Week

10 things I Learned This Week!


1. I am not the best driver in the world...even though I think that I am. Apparently the people in the surrounding cars, with that look of absolute horror on their face would beg to differ and would appreciate a warning the next time I decide to take a drive.

2. I dont have house elves....this actually surprised me. I mean there must be someone else besides me that picks up, but alas there is none. When something gets dropped on the floor and I am not magically there to pick it up, the same item will lay on the floor until I turn into a monster and demand that it be picked up. I really must look in to getting a magical creature to live in my home.

3. My family thinks I am crazy...ok to be honest, I already knew this..but I look at it like this, I may be crazy, and do crazy stuff, but they have to keep loving me...lol they are my family!

4. My hubby lets me makes mistakes, even though he wants to scream "WHAT DO YOU THINK YOU ARE DOING," because he knows that I am the type of person how needs to learn from experience, and he is always there to pick me up when my GRAND plan doesn't work out the way I had "envisioned it."

5. I am BLESSED!!! I already knew this one as well, but I am continually amazed at how God blesses me and my family on a daily basis. Just today we had a "God Thing" happen, right when we needed it. Truly AMAZING!

6.My home will never be spotless...I have given up on that dream. I would love to have the type of home that is always "company ready" but what I have decided to settle on is a home that is "friend ready" instead. my friend know that I homeschool, they know that I work part time outside the home, and that my hubby and I run our Oil business as well...they are OK with a little bit of clutter, an un-swept floor, and the chaos that is sometimes my home. I would rather my home be "friend ready" then living in a home that is ready for "company" but not lived in. so if you are friends, stop by anytime, if you are "company" please give me a few hours notice!!

7. I am a list/calendar type of girl...with out my to do list, I feel lost. If something doesn't make it on the calendar then it doesn't get done. my brain is crazy like that! so if you see me with multiple lists you can assume that my life is in order and I am not going crazy, even though I am pretty sure that is what it looks like :)

8. I love to write...I have multiple stories that I have started (and need to finish), so when my daughter asked me if she could write a book as part of her schooling this summer (yes we school off and on during the summer months, it works best for us) I was so excited!! she is very creative and has been writing short stories, and scripts for a few years,  and I cant wait to see what she thinks up in the next few months!

9. I need "reading/writing time" in my life. I find that when I am over stressed that simply sitting down to write or read a book recharges me more so then sitting and watching a movie. we put a chair just for me in our bedroom, and I love escaping and sitting in the quiet with my books/writing pad and just resting. I need to carve out time for this to happen daily. Making sure that I am recharged and not running on empty is something new to me. I usually and working hard to make sure everything is done, but I know that it wears me down, stresses me out and then no one wants to be around me. these few moments of me time, not only helps me, but helps those who I interact with daily! I had to learn that it was OK for me to tell my loved one that I needed to be alone.

10. Lastly and most importantly......Grace is NEVER ending. Not only the grace that God gives me on a daily (OK, sometimes its hourly) basis, but also the grace that we extend to others and to ourselves. Gods grace is perfect, and while I am in no way perfect, I still strive to be like Christ, and in order to be like Him, I must give grace like Him. I wont lie, it can be hard, and I fail at it daily.It is important to show others the grace that God has given us. I have had to take a deep breath and calm my own heart, before I can offer Grace to others. I am a work in progress, and I am OK with that.

Thursday, May 11, 2017

A Modified Adventure in Baking

Today is Heart rehab day in the Gregory household, which is why I am up at 5:30, popping Milk-less muffins into the oven. They are quick and easy to make, I can control what goes into them, and they will give my tired family something that they can grab and eat on the way.

 Baking for me is an outlet, one I have had to curb since my hubby's heart attack. Gone are the days of Cinnamon rolls, cakes, special cookies, and loafs of homemade bread. Instead we have been eating more whole foods, and trying to watch everything that we bring into our home. It has been hard, and I wont lie, I have slipped up and failed. just the other day I thought, "one meal won't matter"...unfortunately everyone in my family started feeling icky after eating that one meal.

Its just not worth it.

For someone like me, who Loves to bake, and cook from scratch, who finds joy in making something that her family loves, it has been a struggle. One I have cried about, talked about in great length to my friends about, and suffered over.

 I have LOVED to bake since I was a child, something that I have passed on to my daughter, and it seemed like something I identified with was being taken away from me. This morning as I got up early, I was so excited because I got to bake for my family. I did have to modify my recipe a little to make it healthier for my hubby, but I was still baking. And do you know what... it felt GREAT!!! I may not be able to bake every day, and have my family eat what I have lovingly made for them, unfortunately that season of our life has passed, but I can still on occasion find, or modify recipes that they can eat. I am always looking for low calorie, low carb, heart healthy recipes, and while it may take me a while to find some "Great" ones, I am slowly building up my recipe box. This family's adventure in baking is not over....its just been modified a little, and that's OK.

Sunday, April 23, 2017

I am blessed

It is almost midnight and I am so ready for bed! As I sit here and contemplate if I have enough energy to walk from the living room to my bedroom to change clothes, I realize that I really dont care.  I will more then likely end up crawling into bed, not caring about the fact that I am still wearing my work clothes....Please tell me that I am not the only person who does this.

Tonight was a long night....I had a less then perfect shift at my part time job...which made me cranky, and no one likes me when I am cranky! Seriously,  I dont even like me when I'm cranky!

I was feeling overwhelmed by my job,and I was to the point that I wanted to leave my shift early...yeah that's how well my night was going! I try to put my best foot forward in everything, and I have been looking for blessings in others and in the situations I find myself in, but tonight,....I just couldn't find ANY

Until I came home, that is...My family knew I was having a less then stellar night, and my hubby was waiting outside for me when I drove up, and as I was walking up to the door, my daughter ran out to give me "4 hugs!"

After the night I had, I needed all the hugs she would give me.

Sometimes I wonder if God allows us to go through bad nights, just so we can realize how blessed we are. Maybe tonight's frustration was nothing more then God reminding me that He has given me an amazing family and that I should be thankful for them.

Maybe this is His way of telling me to stop looking for blessings in everything else and start seeing the ones He has placed right in front of me.

How many times do we look elsewhere for what we think we want or need, only to find out that what we truly wanted and needed had been in front of us the whole time.

My family is a blessing...a Blessing that we almost lost apart of a few weeks ago.  My husband, who is only 35, had a heart attack, and while I watched him fighting to breathe, and I saw the nurses  scrambling to help him, I stood there helpless. There was my husband, my best friend, my love, my soul mate, laying on an ER bed, having a heart attack, and the only thing running through my mind was "you are going to lose him."

I have NEVER been that scared in my life.  Even now, the memory of that moment, makes me cry. The fear is still there....it is ever present. Anytime I hear his breath catch, I stop and wait to make sure he takes another breath. I lay awake at night listing to make sure he is OK. I dont know how long this will go on, and my husband has told me "not to worry," but I do.  And I will. For a long time to come, because the thought of facing life with out this man beside me, terrifies me.

And yet, I am blessed.

I know this to be true, because I know with out a shadow of a doubt, that they only thing that saved my husband from the "widow maker" heart attack he had, was the hand of God. So many people were praying for him, and I know that every prayer lifted to heaven in behalf of my husband, was heard.

I am blessed.


The last few weeks have been hard, we are adjusting to a new normal, a new lifestyle, and we as a family have all been a little stressed, to say the least...and then there was tonight, where God allowed me to see what was right in front of me. My blessings, My loves, My family.

I am blessed.















Tuesday, March 21, 2017

Finding Peace in a Crazy, Hectic Life


It has been a while since I have posted... Our family has been crazy busy these past few weeks, and while most of the craziness is over, I still feel like we are constantly running around like chickens with our heads cut off.  If you have ever read my blog before, you know how much I value peace and calmness, and having a home that is centered around that ideology.  However the past few weeks have been anything but that!! While it was very fast paced, with a few late nights (OK there were a LOT of late nights), and I did have moments where I felt like nothing was going right, we did have a lot of fun, and we did get to make some great memories along the way.

The following are pictures of our past weekend, where our daughter got to be involved with her Figure Skating Clubs, Spotlight on Ice, and she had so much fun. The skaters did a great job, and we were so proud of them, and our Little Miss, for working so hard to put out a great show!





SOI practice
Olivia goofing off backstage


Me and my little Miss

Love this girl


Olivia skating in a fez
putting up the curtain




goofing off backstage

Olivia had 24 people people come see her over the span of 3 shows...this is the ONLY picture I took!

Olivia and Lexi SFSC

backstage before the 1st show

getting ready for Spotlight on Ice



 Spotlight on Ice 2017 is officially over, but our crazy busy life is still in full swing...with  running our home based business, homeschooling,and working a part time job...it seems like I will never get back to quiet, peaceful nights at home. I have come to the realization that this is nothing more then a season in our life, and that it would be better for me to embrace and accept the craziness that is my life.

Becoming frustrated because I am not at home, making everything from scratch, finding things to do with my family that are centered around being calm, relaxing, and restful, does nothing more then make me stressed and resentful.

I am always telling my daughter, "in all things, do it as unto worship to God" 

How can I say that to my daughter, when I am frustrated and upset that I am busy. This season of my life is not news to God...He knows EXACTLY where I am, because he placed me here.

Peace can come wrapped up in craziness...it can still be found while driving back and forth to appointments. It can surround you EVEN if you are in the midst of a hectic season of your life.

Choosing to embrace my busy season allows me to show Olivia how we can worship God, even when we are busy. We can still find time to show His love to those around us. We can CHOOSE peace, over frustration. We can show others Gods Love, and HIS impact on our lives, through how we respond to situations that haven't gone the way we may have hoped, or planned.

Maybe this is WHY I am in this season...to LEARN to trust FULLY in His plan.

My life is hectic, But Gods peace can transcend that. And while my longing for a night at home with the fireplace (thanks to Netflix's fake ones lol) going, and an audio book playing while we snuggle on the couch as a family.....in reality, what will probably happen is I will put together  a quick dinner, that is followed by me either rushing to get to an online class, working on my business, or running to my part time job.

Until this season passes....or I learn the lesson God has for me,  I will make an effort to be at peace with it, and to Find the Peace that is always there, waiting for me.































Monday, January 30, 2017

Giving God control, and resting in His PEACE!



Have you ever given something over to God, and then wondered why He wasn't taking care of it?

Ever feel like you need to do something, Anything really, to make something happen?

How many of us need to be in control of EVERY aspect of our lives?


I know that I am so guilty of this! I pray that God will take care of something, and I lay it at his feet, but then I worry about that same issue. I fret about "what can I do to help this situation" I do CRAZY things when I feel like nothing is working out the way I want it to...then I obsess over how I can fix it, what I can do to make things better, and then I cry out to God asking him why He hasn't "fixed" my problem.

Then I am gently reminded that I never left it with Him....I placed it at his feet, but before I turned to go, I picked it back up!

How awesome is it that He GENTLY reminds of us this....its not a SMACK to the head, although sometimes I am sure that is just what I need! He Loves us so much that over and over again, He reminds us of what we need to do, for us to be blessed by Him.

Just last week, as I was going through the 21 days of prayer for my business (if you are wanting to do this please check out  50K to Pray, I am enjoying this walk and recommend it to anyone who has a business or who is thinking about starting one) and while I was praying, I GAVE God control of my business...I spent a few days at peace, knowing that He was in control. it was going smoothly, until I decided that I should "help" my business along. I started worrying about things that I had already given to God. I started annoying my husband by asking "what if we do this" question non-stop. I had basically taken the control that I had freely GIVEN to God, back!  Of course my business wasn't  going to move forward, because I was no longer following the PATH that God had already put in front of me.

I was sitting in my sisters church yesterday, and  it hit me....I wanted to be in control. I wanted to be the person calling the shots. and let me tell you...that is never a good thing. my husband likes to say I am in helicopter mode....which basically means I am trying to control the outcome of every aspect of my life.

Do you know what happens when a helicopter loses control....They crash! It is messy, and people are hurt. this is basically what happens when I try to be in control of everything. I get overwhelmed, I get anxious, I get so frustrated with everything and everyone around me, I get emotional, and finally I CRASH.

Its at this point that I usually realize if I had just left it at His feet, I would never have gone through the whole process of crashing.

God wants us to be successful, HIS plans for us are GOOD...they are to give us HOPE!

Jeremiah 29:11 says "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

He wants us to prosper in everything we do. However, can we prosper, when we cant even give and LEAVE our problems with Him. 

My family jokes about all the crazy things I have done in an effort to control an outcome. I am the one who sees a bill due, and goes out and gets a job, even if I know I cant possibly physically do the job...it always ends in me crashing, which is not a good feeling. 

Learning to cast ALL my cares on the Lord, when I am the way I am, has been hard. But it is getting easier. It has taken me having to walk through some HUGE issues and situations, for me to realize that I am better just praying "Lord, your will"! 

Sometimes in order to have peace, we have to let the things that worry us,  the battles that seem so big that we could NEVER win them, we have to GIVE them to God. And we HAVE to leave them there. If we allow God to be in control, and we Allow Him to work wonders and miracles in our life, He will.

If we decide to pick them back up, then when nothing changes,  we have no one to blame but ourselves. God WANTS to fight for us. He wants to be our SHELTER in the storm, He wants to PROTECT us, and He wants us to CALL on Him.....But he will not fight us for control. He wants us to hand it to Him freely.  

Once we hand over our life, our problems, our family, our businesses, to Him, we can see His plan unfold before us. we can sit back and rest in the knowledge that He is taking care of everything and we are living in His PERFECT plan! 

Now dont get me wrong, I'm not saying that once you hand over control that you should sit back and do nothing....I am a firm believer that God helps those that help them selves, what I am saying is that we dont need to worry about trying to figure out how WE can solve the problem. We dont need to have anxiety over something that is out of our control. We can spend our time, praising God for His perfect out come, even if it is not the outcome we wanted.

So once you have handed your need over to God, let it go...concentrate on praising Him for what He is GOING to do for you.  Rest in His peace :) 


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my wonderful husband  calls this my helicopter mode!

Wednesday, January 25, 2017

When you feel like a failure, remember WHO made you!


let's get real for a moment....

How many moms out there feel like you are a failure? Like everything you have done, was wrong?

Sigh...that was me today!

 I forgot to swap the laundry....yesterday....so the house stunk this morning...AGAIN .

Today, in my frustration, I raised my voice to my family....and I HATED it.

Today, I didn't do meal prep...and so my hubby got out in the cold to pick up a dinner I should have made. (He did this without complaint, I might add, I truly am blessed)

Today, I let past fears seep into my daily activity, and based some of my decisions off of that past fear.

Today, I forgot to eat (seriously, who does this), and my sugar dropped so fast, I almost passed out!


Today, I felt like a failure.... 


But today, I also felt Gods peace...I love how it can feel like a blanket dropping over my shoulders, there is no better feeling then resting in His perfect peace!

Today, I remembered His GRACE...it is never ending!

Today, I was given the gift of blessing others...and was blessed in return.

Today, My daughter and I stood in a parking lot, holding hands, the world stopping for just a moment as we PRAYED that God would use us, and let everything that we did be done as worship unto Him.....What a precious moment.


Today, I was reminded that my past does NOT define who I am today!

Today, I may have failed in somethings, like the laundry, and raising my voice, but I am NOT a failure.

I am Me...I am a mom, a wife, a sister, a friend....I go by many names, but failure is not one of them.

If you are feeling like a failure...remember that you are uniquely made by the same God that made the Heavens and the Earth...He doesn't create failure. He creates beauty in everything.

Yes, we may fall, and we may fail at somethings, but that doesn't mean WE are failures. We are HIS...we are Loved...We are more then what our "today's" look like.

Lets all take a deep breath, start over tomorrow, and live the life He has laid out before us :)



Monday, January 16, 2017

Light-bulb

Ever have an Ah-ha moment?

You know what I'm talking about...
.the moment a light bulb goes off in your head
 and you can see the situation clearly.

Those moments are AWESOME!

It is like God has just opened your eyes and everything comes in so clearly, and you know exzactly what you are supposed to be doing!

I wish I could say I have a lot of these light bulb moments.....however I think God has to use a different type of technique on my type of brain. I personally think He must get tired of hitting me upside the head while saying "When will she EVER learn", or "seriously Shanna, this is the 3rd time we have had to go over this lesson"

I am unfortunately, a slow learner...and while I am learning from my mistakes, I sometimes have to learn from them over and over again..sigh, why is it so hard for me to learn?

It is something I am working on...I wish I could just jump to the test in some lessons, but that's not how God designed them. I have to walk through the lessons and learn from them.

Last week, while walking through the beginning of 21 days of prayer, I have learned something so important. The disappointments/failures/hurts of my past have helped shape who I am, but they do not define who I am meant to be. It has really changed my perspective, on how I look at the things that I have went through.

When I looked back over the disappointments and hurts that my family have walked through, I looked at them as "how could God allow us to walk through that" or "there was no reason for me to go through that."  but now I realize that yes, we were hurt, we were disappointment, but it wasn't all for nothing. It was so we could grow and mature in our walk with God.

Our family walked through something so hurtful, so unbelievable that I couldn't understand WHY we were going through it. and you know what? I still dont know why...and I may NEVER know why we had to go through it. But it happened. the pain was real, the disbelief was real, the hurt was real...all the raw emotions, they were all real....and that is what I focus on now.

In my hurt, the tears I cried out to God were REAL, they were RAW, they were from the inner most depth of my soul, crying out to a God who would never leave or forsake me.

There were days where I couldn't even voice how hard my heart hurt, and I didn't know how to pray, I would close my eyes and let the tears fall, and just say "Jesus"

Jesus....

I cried out to Him. I needed His peace so much, that I sought after him with my whole being.  I laid awake at night praying that God would shine His truth on the situation that we were faced with. I prayed that God would give me a forgiving heart, because it is easier to say "forgive and forget" then to actually say "I forgive you" to someone who has hurt you and your family.

Do you know what I found during this trial/lesson? I found that God was faithful, that He will not forsake His children. I also found out that while seeking Him, that He was never further away then just the mention of His name.

 I learned that the struggle, while it hurt, was the thing that started me looking at my inner heart. It started me on a path that has been remarkable. It has given me a confidence in my faith that I did not have before. I know that no matter what I walk through, and no matter how hard and impossible the situation is, I can give it to God, and He will take care of it. He may ask us to walk though another hard struggle, but I know that even as I walk through it, God is in control of the outcome, and no matter what that outcome may be, He is in control.

I have started LOVING my quiet time with God. something that I did before just out of habit, I now long for it. I have been maturing not only in my personal life, but also in my spiritual walk. and with out the trials that had me on my knees, crying out to God, seeking Him and His peace, I may not have gotten to the place I am at now....or at least It would have been a lot slower...remember folks, I am a slow learner :)


God showed me that even in my hurt, even in my weakness, that He is there, giving me PEACE and STRENGTH to get through the most difficult situations.

This past week, I have worked through more emotions then I thought possible. I seriously thought the "21 days of prayer" would be us reading and praying for a bit, I didn't realize that we were going to be asked to go so deep. But I am so thankful for it. It is drawing me ever closer to my goal of having a deeper personal walk with my lord!

When we are at our weakest, God is at His strongest!












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